Comments on: No regrets….really?? http://bethlambdin.wordpress.com/2009/02/02/no-regretsreally/ to inspire, encourage, motivate & bless you! Mon, 14 Dec 2009 06:24:35 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Jenifer C. http://bethlambdin.wordpress.com/2009/02/02/no-regretsreally/#comment-977 Jenifer C. Sat, 21 Mar 2009 23:23:36 +0000 http://bethlambdin.wordpress.com/?p=1172#comment-977 Hi Beth, Great perspective and insight. I wholeheartedly agree with this. I have been wincing for years when I hear the "everything happens for a reason" and "I don't regret a thing." It relies too heavily on the Word's promise "that God works all things together for the good of those who love God." It has become a scapegoat for bad behavior and unaccountability. Not to mention it kind of rips off the whole idea of free will. We are given free will and have choices and there are consequences. So to say the other things kind of sounds like there is no choice - that it just happened that way. I think for many it eases the guilt and allows them to cope with the mistakes they will not face. There are a lot of things I would change if I could do it again. However, I am glad we have a gracious God and He takes our mistakes when we surrender to Him and somehow we are more beautiful then when we stood there stubborn and full of ugly pride. Love you and your thoughtfulness! Jeni Hi Beth,

Great perspective and insight. I wholeheartedly agree with this. I have been wincing for years when I hear the “everything happens for a reason” and “I don’t regret a thing.” It relies too heavily on the Word’s promise “that God works all things together for the good of those who love God.” It has become a scapegoat for bad behavior and unaccountability. Not to mention it kind of rips off the whole idea of free will. We are given free will and have choices and there are consequences. So to say the other things kind of sounds like there is no choice – that it just happened that way. I think for many it eases the guilt and allows them to cope with the mistakes they will not face. There are a lot of things I would change if I could do it again. However, I am glad we have a gracious God and He takes our mistakes when we surrender to Him and somehow we are more beautiful then when we stood there stubborn and full of ugly pride. Love you and your thoughtfulness!
Jeni

]]> By: militarywifey http://bethlambdin.wordpress.com/2009/02/02/no-regretsreally/#comment-976 militarywifey Tue, 10 Mar 2009 12:31:36 +0000 http://bethlambdin.wordpress.com/?p=1172#comment-976 Your blog is amazing. Such insightful writing. I love this post! Anyways, I'm only 26 and I do also have regrets. I don't like to be proud of my mistakes and saying that I have "no regrets" would be relishing in every bad decision I've made. I know that God worked those bad decisions I made out for good, but I'm not in the least proud of them. I hope to tell my daughter that some of my bad decisions were regretful because they were mistakes. I don't want my children making them so why shouldn't I express genuine regret over my past indiscretions? Your blog is amazing. Such insightful writing. I love this post!

Anyways, I’m only 26 and I do also have regrets. I don’t like to be proud of my mistakes and saying that I have “no regrets” would be relishing in every bad decision I’ve made. I know that God worked those bad decisions I made out for good, but I’m not in the least proud of them.

I hope to tell my daughter that some of my bad decisions were regretful because they were mistakes. I don’t want my children making them so why shouldn’t I express genuine regret over my past indiscretions?

]]> By: Andy Lauchland http://bethlambdin.wordpress.com/2009/02/02/no-regretsreally/#comment-971 Andy Lauchland Wed, 18 Feb 2009 08:22:47 +0000 http://bethlambdin.wordpress.com/?p=1172#comment-971 THANK YOU! I was starting to think there was something wrong with having regrets. THANK YOU! I was starting to think there was something wrong with having regrets.

]]> By: Rebecca Foxworth http://bethlambdin.wordpress.com/2009/02/02/no-regretsreally/#comment-961 Rebecca Foxworth Sat, 07 Feb 2009 06:05:15 +0000 http://bethlambdin.wordpress.com/?p=1172#comment-961 Wow. Count me out of the no regrets crowd. My biggest regret? Not learning to live on one income from the START of my marriage so that when babies came we weren't so "keep on working or lose the house" minded. Oh. Yeah. Totally regret that. Wow. Count me out of the no regrets crowd. My biggest regret? Not learning to live on one income from the START of my marriage so that when babies came we weren’t so “keep on working or lose the house” minded. Oh. Yeah. Totally regret that.

]]> By: Susan Carpenter Gardner http://bethlambdin.wordpress.com/2009/02/02/no-regretsreally/#comment-960 Susan Carpenter Gardner Fri, 06 Feb 2009 20:35:02 +0000 http://bethlambdin.wordpress.com/?p=1172#comment-960 Great thoughts. I have always thought this subject of having no regrets was odd. In my mind it is right up there with "if I could live my life over again, I wouldn't change a thing." wow, I'd always be so puzzled with that remark. Because I sure would go back and do a few things differently, things similar to those you listed. Great thoughts, thanks to you for addressing a great subject! Great thoughts. I have always thought this subject of having no regrets was odd. In my mind it is right up there with “if I could live my life over again, I wouldn’t change a thing.” wow, I’d always be so puzzled with that remark. Because I sure would go back and do a few things differently, things similar to those you listed. Great thoughts, thanks to you for addressing a great subject!

]]> By: kelly http://bethlambdin.wordpress.com/2009/02/02/no-regretsreally/#comment-959 kelly Wed, 04 Feb 2009 17:36:28 +0000 http://bethlambdin.wordpress.com/?p=1172#comment-959 When I say I do not want to live with regrets, I refer to not doing the things God wants me to do...the most important things in this life! I never say it pridefully...we all have regrets, and most certainly should live to redeem those! Awesome perspective Beth. Love ya. When I say I do not want to live with regrets, I refer to not doing the things God wants me to do…the most important things in this life! I never say it pridefully…we all have regrets, and most certainly should live to redeem those! Awesome perspective Beth. Love ya.

]]> By: Nancy http://bethlambdin.wordpress.com/2009/02/02/no-regretsreally/#comment-958 Nancy Tue, 03 Feb 2009 22:22:46 +0000 http://bethlambdin.wordpress.com/?p=1172#comment-958 Dear Beth - I can not express enough how deeply your blog has impacted my life. I look forward to your posts, words of wisdom and insight. You are truly a "woman of God" and I think that is the highest praise I can give you. I agree wholeheartedly that redeeming your regrets is the only way to grow and become the woman that God meant for me to be. There is SO much God is teaching me and showing me everyday. I want to be that open vessel for His glory. KEEP IT UP! Blessings to you, Nancy Dear Beth – I can not express enough how deeply your blog has impacted my life. I look forward to your posts, words of wisdom and insight. You are truly a “woman of God” and I think that is the highest praise I can give you. I agree wholeheartedly that redeeming your regrets is the only way to grow and become the woman that God meant for me to be. There is SO much God is teaching me and showing me everyday. I want to be that open vessel for His glory. KEEP IT UP!

Blessings to you,
Nancy

]]> By: Caroline http://bethlambdin.wordpress.com/2009/02/02/no-regretsreally/#comment-955 Caroline Tue, 03 Feb 2009 05:52:59 +0000 http://bethlambdin.wordpress.com/?p=1172#comment-955 thanks for challenging us again and food for thought! thanks for challenging us again and food for thought!

]]> By: Carleen http://bethlambdin.wordpress.com/2009/02/02/no-regretsreally/#comment-954 Carleen Tue, 03 Feb 2009 05:36:36 +0000 http://bethlambdin.wordpress.com/?p=1172#comment-954 thnx Beth...I agree 100%. I believe in taking my regrets and trying to redeem them as well. Being transparent with my kids when I hurt their tender spirits is one of them, and I still don't think I apologize enough. thnx Beth…I agree 100%. I believe in taking my regrets and trying to redeem them as well. Being transparent with my kids when I hurt their tender spirits is one of them, and I still don’t think I apologize enough.

]]> By: Sam http://bethlambdin.wordpress.com/2009/02/02/no-regretsreally/#comment-953 Sam Tue, 03 Feb 2009 04:02:53 +0000 http://bethlambdin.wordpress.com/?p=1172#comment-953 Wow... thanks for sharing all of that. I couldn't agree more. Good wisdom indeed, methinks. Wow… thanks for sharing all of that. I couldn’t agree more. Good wisdom indeed, methinks.

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